How To Recover From Loss

Dear Molly,

My marriage is falling apart, I might lose my house, and my job is not secure.  How do I deal with all of this trauma happening at once?

– Freddie

Dear Freddie,

Some times when we are not following our true paths, we experience a wake-up call.  Yours is dressed in a disintegrating marriage and possible loss all around, as it relates to your security (job, house, etc).

So, my question to you is this –

How secure are you on the inside minus everything that is happening all around you?

Next, do you really love this man?  If you do, some changes need to be made.  Are you getting what you need?  Are you free to be yourself?  Do you really feel the connection?  Or, are you holding on to something that is actually not serving you?

Be honest with your answers.

As for your house and job…

What do you do for a living?  Energy spent on a job you don’t care for will detract from all other areas of your life.  This may be necessary for now, but it doesn’t have to be permanent.  Think about what you’d really love to do and watch (and feel) how this shifts your energy.  This transition won’t happen all at once – so don’t make any rash moves.  It sounds like, however you may have a career move in your future.  Think beyond your present circumstances.  Ultimately, what I see is – you are being asked to let go.

Let go of the idea that security comes nicely packaged in the form of a marriage license, house and job.

Redefine it.

Could you lose your marriage, your house and your job and still know who you are?  If not, this is exactly the question you need to face.

This is not about your husband or anything else – this is about you and your willingness to be true to who you are.

Your life will re-shape as you address this core issue.  Some times it just has to get a little messy before you get it right.

I fall down all the time, but I always get back up.

You can too.




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