I’m going through some hard times. It seems everything is falling apart, and I don’t know why. I’m scared this downward spiral is never going to end. How do I stop the downward momentum and find my way back?
– Crash and Burn in Crookston
Dear Crash and Burn in Crookston,
I’m sorry you’re going through hard times. Sometimes it’s our own thought process that gets in the way of recovery. Hard to believe, I know, but if you can come around to the idea you can start to take hold of some of your thoughts and get them moving in the direction of positivity and forward momentum – even in the middle of destruction.
What type of grounding practice do you have in your life? If nothing, that’s okay – perfect time to start something that will help you feel better and can look forward to preferably on a regular basis – walking or yoga or something you enjoy.
When things fall apart materially, we need to think what it is that helps us feel stable and secure on the inside. It really is an internal process. In essence, you can rebuild yourself from the ground up, and as you do you’ll feel empowered to put the external pieces back together too.
Maybe it’s time to create a whole new puzzle. Destruction has a way of putting you in touch with – you. You may not see it now, so just trust me. You’ll look back one day and see it as a gift.
Until then, take it one day at a time. You don’t have to change everything at once. Pace yourself.
Do you have anyone you can talk to? Surround yourself with great people, who will positively support you as you move through.
I hope everything turns out okay. I’ll be thinking of you.