Breathe through the Threshold of Change

Dear Molly,

I keep coming up to this same spot in my life that I can’t seem to push through.  It gets me every time, and I’d like to move through whatever barrier this is that is preventing me from realizing some changes I’m desiring in my life. 

-Spinning in Saskwatch

Dear Spinning in Saskwatch,

You’re not alone!  We all come up to these barriers when we try to move beyond our daily grind into something new.  Lots of ‘stuff’ can come up right before you step into it.  Those old voices will try to keep you exactly where you’ve been. 

Take a deep breath and just notice the thoughts.  This will help you remember they’re not really you.  The ‘real’ you wants to move into new terrain.  The ‘real’ you loves to explore and create.  So….

Make a little plan for yourself ahead of time.  Ask yourself what you need when things get tight and stressful.  Then, make a short list of those things to keep on hand.  Some times when stress hits, we can’t think clearly.  So you can imagine yourself ahead of time walking up to that threshold of change and practice what you’ll do to move through. 

Call a friend? 

Meditate? 

Play some fun music? 

Stay out of your head, and let your heart lead.  Remember to breathe.  Always, breathe!!!

Personally, I like to dance.

Keep it light, and you’ll be fine. 

I believe in you. 

Love,

Molly.

Finding Relief

Dear Molly,

I don’t know what to do.  I’m stuck in a place I don’t want to be in.  Nothing is going right.  I don’t like my job, and I’m just not enjoying myself.  I need change but don’t know where to begin.  Please help. 

– Lost in Louisville

Dear Lost in Louisville,

I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling so stuck.  Are you in a place where you can treat yourself to a day of fun?  You need to lighten the tension you’re feeling, it will make your way more clear and your decisions easier.  Start with that.  Do something fun, or treat yourself to something nice.  Just feel a little bit of relief from where you are.  That’s your first step.  Lighten up. 

Lots of love,

Molly.

Inside Out Beliefs

Dear Molly,

How do you let go of what’s no longer serving you when it has kept you comfortable for so long? 

                                                                                                                Clinging in Cleveland

Dear Clinging in Cleveland,

This is kind of a general question, but it’s a good one.  I imagine you could be talking about a relationship, a job or an old habit.  Whatever the case, I’m going to ask you to go a little bit deeper and have a look at some beliefs that may not be serving you. 

For instance, maybe you’re tired of people treating you a certain way in your relationships.  Instead of just looking at the external piece – the relationship – What belief do you have about yourself that allows this treatment from others?

Perhaps you think you’re not worthy of love and respect (a common belief, I might add), so you keep attracting people who give you further evidence this is true. 

This may take a little time, but what you really want to do is reconstruct some old beliefs – this is how you will begin to change your life. 

It really does start inside. 

Notice what is happening on the outside — repeated patterns, constant frustrations, etc.  Then, go inside to see if you can discover what beliefs about yourself these people and situations are triggering.

Old ways of thinking and believing are what you will need to let go of.  When you grasp that, it will be a lot easier, because you’ll realize it’s not anything material. 

It is a shift within.

This shift will naturally open you up to new circumstances and people that are more fitting for you, and when you catch a glimpse of what’s in store —

You won’t want to hold on to what came before. 

Best of luck and lots of love,

Molly.

Newbie in Nova Scotia

Dear Newbie in Nova Scotia,

How exciting!  I love meeting new friends.

What do you enjoy doing?

Dancing? Writing? Cooking? Theater?

You could start by taking a class – This will help you meet some like-minded people.

Are you a spiritual or religious person?  You could find a church or similar community to attend.

Your best bet is to start doing things that resonate with who you really are.  That way you will most likely meet people on a similar wavelength.

Put yourself out there, and have some fun!

Fun people attract more fun people!

And, that’s what it’s all about, right?

Love,

Molly.

Holy Madness of a Year

Dear Molly,

I had quite the year last year.  None of my plans came to fruition, and I am having a hard time making peace with it.  I want to move forward without the disappointment overshadowing my plans.  Could this year be even better because of all that has come before?  Please help me put this to rest once and for all.

Disappointed in Denver

Dear Disappointed in Denver,

It sounds like you had a big year planned last year – maybe your expectations got to be so high, you found you couldn’t actually live up to them.  Rather than thinking you have to fix anything externally, take some time to adjust your dreams and expectations.

Yes – anything is possible, but will everything happen at once? Maybe not.  Spread out your plans and give yourself some space to move into them.

Reconnect to the feeling you want when it’s all said and done, and let yourself feel that all along the way.  That’s really what you’re looking for in the first place –

The Joy of the Journey.

Because, guess what?

You’re never done – You’re always going to want more.  Instead of focusing on all that you have not done yet, remember inside you are already fully complete.  As you move forward with this understanding, you’ll be amazed at how opportunities just seem to keep finding you – and better yet – how you’re now able to let them in.

Make this year your best yet by focusing on everything that’s going right, and remember to have some fun!

Okay?

Love,

Molly