Trying Too Hard

Dear Molly, 

I have been trying to make some changes in my life for a long time, but I don’t seem to be getting anywhere.  I really want to lose weight and feel better in my body.  I feel tired all the time, and my results don’t seem to stick.  I’ll lose 10 pounds then gain it back.  I want to end this vicious cycle, but I also think, “what’s the point?”  Why bother if I’m just going to gain it back and have to do it all over again?  I think it’d be easier to just give up.  

– Wishing for Weight Loss in Westchester

Dear Wishing for Weight Loss in Westchester,

Don’t give up! Sometimes I think when people are having so much trouble with something it’s because they are trying too hard.  You probably know what to do to lose weight since you’ve done it before.  Now maybe you just need to relax a little bit, and be easy on yourself as you do it again. This time when you feel yourself starting to get stressed or feel a slip backwards, just lightly catch yourself.  You’ve been there before – so you know the spot.  Breathe, relax, and gently encourage yourself forward.  We all do this, so don’t think you’re the only one.  It’s a common part of change – one step forward, two steps back.  You just learn how to catch yourself in that spot where it gets intense, and you want to revert back to your old ways.  One new thought in the right direction will keep you moving forward.  Decide to breakthrough! (and know you’re worthy of the breakthrough!!)

Pretty soon you’ll learn how to manage yourself on a regular basis, sensing the slipping points and redirecting yourself.  Believe it or not, your mind has a lot of control here.  See if you can notice the dialogue that comes up during the hard times – that’s really what needs to change.  

Like every other change, the ability to see yourself in a positive light will help push through the hard stuff and sustain the new you!

Remember how awesome you are!  Now prepare your mind again for success.  You can do it!  

I’m cheering you on!




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